9 Secrets to Mesmerizing Presence

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It’s gorgeous back here in Bucks County with the
snow on the ground and the pale white-breasted hawks
hunting in the woods.

They are so stunning I can’t take my eyes off them.

Would you like to be that stunning?

Would you like to be yourself, be successful, and be that stunning?

Here are 9 secrets to Mesmerizing Presence
(and a few more).

How many of them are yours?

  1. Audrey HepburnPick the person whose presence you most admire.  Imitate them shamelessly.  Adapt their style to yours.
  2. Read “You Are the Message” by Roger Ailes.
  3. Develop the ability to make the person you are talking to feel like the most fascinating person in the world (this is huge.)
  4. Move from your hara, near your navel.  Don’t move from your head or neck or upper chest.  Carry your energy in the center.
  5. Practice talking as if you were telling stories to 8-year-olds.  This will blow your mind.
  6. Develop “elegant refusal.”  The ability to hold back, not say everything, keep your own counsel.
  7. Radiate joy.  Radiate comfort — the secret to charisma.  You are the same in front of Vladimir Putin as you are in front of your nieces and nephews.
  8. Take a dozen ballet lessons.
  9. Be 100% present (duh) but this is hard to do.  We all live in the past or the future.  Few are fully present.
  10. Bonus Point:  Practice feeling your entire body, develop proprioceptive awareness.


  1. Be astonishingly grateful.
  2. Let go of being special.  (Does not contradict above.  See bio of Audrey Hepburn.)  Few people can actually do this, and it is radiant.
  3. Set RADICALLY firm boundaries.
  4. Never explain, never complain.
  5. Know you are loved.
  6. Find peace and live there as often as possible.
  7. Find something lovable about everyone you meet, no matter how tiny the detail.  You don’t have to tell them.  Just find it.


May your holidays be merry and mesmerizing!


  1. These are powerful and wonderful pointers for us all. Practice makes natural.

    Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you and your readers.

  2. Very Good. THX.


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